Monday, July 12, 2010


Last night we got a phone call from the director of our language school stating that our professor was no longer available and that we would have a new professor on Monday with a new time change.

"Okay," I heard my hubby say on the phone to the director.

But I wasn't "okay" with it. Our professor, "Juan" (not his real name) was great. We were making progress and were considered at the intermediate level after only 10 sessions. He knew us as students, but more than that he was becoming our friend. We later realized that it was something between him and the school and that we shouldn't get involved (so we did not!).

So this morning, we started with a new instructor at a different time.'s what life is all about (right?). But to be perfectly honest with you, I've had just about all the change I can take for a while. Our new teacher is great (don't get me wrong); she's young, she's fun and she's more animated than "Juan," but today we started from the beginning again  "Tell me a little bit about yourselves, " she said in Spanish with her eyes sparkling and her hands waving.

No! I thought to myself, I don't want to tell you about myself...I want "Juan" back!

My hubby gave me that knowing smile, put his hand to his forehead and scratched the back of his head with the other hand. After 34 years of marriage, I knew what that meant: Sit on your hands, Connie! Grin and bear it!

So I did...for one hour and 30 minutes. I was conversant and played along, but I wasn't "present."  Afterall, how much can a girl take? In one month's time, I have married a son, sold a house, given away all my earthly possessions, said goodbye to family and friends, came to Ecuador with four suitcases...oh, yes, I wrote a book during that last month as well that probably will never be released because I now live in a foreign country. No big deal, right?


My ability to change has stopped functioning. After class, Mark took me to the Oro Verde for a cappuccino and while I was enjoying my "cap" and complimentary chocolate, I looked up to find Mark crying (no sobbing!). I put my arm around him and asked, "What's wrong, honey?" And then the words which made me cry as well..."I miss my boys!"

I knew it...I knew it...I knew it! It was bound to happen. Of course, we miss our boys (we had to hide the pictures around the apartment because we sobbed every time we looked at them). Our boys are 24 and 29 and they have lives of their own and they're happy. In fact, I mentioned to Jon that we couldn't bear to look at their pictures because we started sobbing. He joked with me and said, "Oh yeah, I'm sobbing uncontrollably too!" ;-)

Here's the knew I was getting to it, didn't you?  I'm sick of change. I want things to be stable (just for a couple of days, which means I don't want a new Spanish teacher). There...I said it!

As we walked out of the Oro Verde, another American couple walked in and complained that we had given "Ana" a tip for making the rest of our lunch "to go."

"You're going to ruin the economy in Ecuador if you do that!" he said (and he wasn't joking!).
I gave him a blank stare, grabbed Mark's hand before he said something he would surely regret and left the Oro Verde. As we held hands and walked back to our apartment I said, "Change is hard...isn't it?"


Thankfully, Mark is asleep now (siesta time);  I'm writing two articles for the Internet (they actually pay me to do it -- imagine that?), and I'm listening to the rain pelt outside our bedroom window.

It's peaceful. It's quiet. It's home (for a change!).

Until next time...hasta luego!

Consuelo y Marco


Diego said...

Hi Connie,

Once again I understand what you guys are going thru! :) My wife and I have been here for 3 yrs already and I think what we did too was try to do too many things at once! talk about change, sometimes it's just nice to relax and have the same 'ol routine for a while.

Maybe you guys need some of that too, I mean you're retired in Cuenca, the city is not going to be gone in the next month or two, take things slowly :)

If you guys ever have questions or just need to talk more about "change" shoot me an email

Also, we've been thinking on having a "hearts" game night or a board game night this coming weekend, it would be nice if you'd join us.

Carolyn Byers Ruch said...

Wishing I could give you and Mark hugs right now.

Connie Pombo said...

Diego, that would be great! We would love to get together for a board game (we're not so good at hearts!). You're right, we're "retired" and I'm still going at the same pace as I did when I had a book deadline (what's up with that?). I'm sure we'll have a lot to talk about. I'll shoot you an e-mail with our cell number. Okay?

Carolyn: How are you girl? Still want to trade places?!? ;-) Keep hugging your kiddos because one day they will be gone (and it happens all so fast!). Uu abrazo fuerte ~Consuelo y Marco

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